My personal feeling about what to do about chinas missing children pg 189

I remember in the Bible to women fighting over the same child and they went to a jewish leader for help he offered to cut the child in to and give part of the child to each of them .

The real mother said no let her have it the other said go ahead and cut the child in to Solomon gave the child to the women who loved the child enough to give it away to keep it .

By now you are wondering what is she thinking about these children does she want them cut up no .

If you want to know how I feel about adoption read my website it is up their or read International book of love a dolls like us book by Sharon Wortman

I know in my heart that both sets of parents love these children in China as will as in the United States some children are smuggled over seas .

If I were a parent who had one of these stolen children  I won't want to give it back either . I would want what was best for the child these children may grow up and remember their real family and rebel against their adopted family .

I believe in open adoption I believe in children going back years later and meeting birth parents and brothers and sisters .

This happens alot because their are parents out their who want to turn their child against their other parent . They fix it up by being mean to the other parent and keeping the child up for hours so they are a sleep when the parent comes for a visit or moving away so the noncustodial p[arent never gets to see the child .

America has a lot of missing children to we need ot share these children they need both parents in their lives and in oyur case because so few children are allowed ot be born they need both sets of parents in their lives instead of having a baby kidnaped because you cannot have a baby agree to share a child with another child .

The childs birth parents want to see these kids you don't want either your ilegally adopted child to suffer or the birth parents .

So I have thought about it and came up with something new . You invite the birthparents to live in your town if you can find them and you share custody of the child with them . Their would be 4 parents nurturing this child 4 sets of grandparents helping to take care of this child and 4 people paying for this childs education .

In other words this child would feel really loved not recentful or angry if everyone got along . They would see their birth parents they would see their illegally adfopted parent and maybe the to of them could agree on shared custody .

These children will feel loved and will grow up to pass love down from one generation to the other . That is how you can till if oyu have had a successful life if the love you felt while you are alive is passed down after you die .

Or would oyu like to share your child with a family with no children knowing your child will have a better life then you had and you get to see them once in a while . You get to spend time with them they get educated they become somebody you get to watch it happen they go to college .

 They have the kind of life any parent wants for their children . If you are the adopted parent you get to help raise the child they know their birth parents they know you they love everybody .

This child will never recent the people who took them away from their parents if they still have contact with their parents love really is the strongest force in the whole world in any culture anywhere on earth .

Your government cannot allow you to have any more children but that doesn't stop you from sharing the children God has chosen to give you . Each parent in this sharing situation would give back something different to the child fewer childeren would be stolen if they could be a part of a childs life if you don't or cannot have children doesn't mean you cannot work with children teaching them to read or reading to them go out and kick a ball around with them .

My husband had a step grand mother who didn't have any birth children but over 100 people attended her 90th birthday party . They were all her God given kids some times God choices to give oyu family members you know those special people in your life that you are to close to to consider being a friend they are family to you . These are your God given relatives how do I know that my parents first child was adopted and God has given me a lot of relatives from him and some of my first cousins are adopted .

I thank God everyday for my Godgiven family.